Hello !
New Ancestral Recall in our cycle about how to learn from our mistakes and move away from the state of “OMG!! I’m screwed! I messed up! I’m so lame! Help me! Please! I don’t deserve to be a judge, Death has to come for me the shame is unbearable!” (anyway, you got the point).
Originally, this episode was about a piece from David de la Iglesia titled “So you screwed up - A 4 steps guide to falling forward”.
https://blogs.magicjudges.org/dli/2015/07/28/so-you-screwed-up-a-four-step-guide-to-failing-forward/It presents a process of four steps for each mistake to makes us stronger!
- Accept the responsibility of the mistake
- Apologize
- Get feedback about what happened
- Find forgiveness
Four steps that look easy at first but are not always easy to go through.
Unfortunately, I was unable to find it on the blog again :/ (it must have been moved or deleted. If anyone knows, please tell me).
However, I found another great article, this time from Paul “bearz” Baranay soberly titled “Exemplary Failure”:
https://blogs.magicjudges.org/bearz/exemplary-failure/In here, using a recognition that he read, Paul tells us about the difficult aspects of being a judge. It is not always smiley and funny to judge. It is a lot of responsibilities, and sometimes it can be stressful. And how can you become more confident ? How can you be sure you are going to be able to handle everything ? As Paul says, the answer is not just “become a better judge”, “just don’t fail”, or as one might hear sometimes “toughen up !”. The answer is often in people. People that can lift you up, that make you WANT to become better, people that lead you by their example.
Like Paul when he wrote this article, I made a mistake. I thought the piece from David de la Iglesia would be available on the D-day and today I failed. But it allowed me to find another great article, and I am glad for it. Reading it, I pictured the judge community as a spartan army. You are not alone. We are strong because we have got people beside us turned toward the same goal, aiming for the same direction and supporting each other.
When someone comes to you because of a mistake they did, looking for your support, for your help, for your feedback to become better, always reach out. Because it takes courage to come to someone and ask for help, admitting we did something wrong. Because you have been there already or will be some day and you will need someone, and because a soldier in a spartan phalanx is only as strong as the soldier beside them. So let’s support each other ;)
THIS.IS.JUDGING !
I hope you liked this episode and see you next week! =)
PS: If you now feel an urge to shout, shake hands or hug someone, feeling ready to overcome any obstacles from now on: that’s perfectly normal and awesome, keep it up!
(This episode can be found in the Learning Sphere section of the Blog here:
https://blogs.magicjudges.org/learning/ancestral-recall/october-2018-mistakes-can-be-made/episode-2/ )
Edited Charles-Henri Turpin (Oct. 9, 2018 01:51:12 PM)