Originally posted by Lyle Waldman:
To use your analogy to a religious person at a Black Sabbath concert: Certainly, if a religious person comes to a Black Sabbath concert and is offended, the usher (or bouncer, or whoever) will say to them “hey, seriously? You, a religious person, came to a Black Sabbath concert, and you're complaining about being offended? Do you know nothing about what we are?” and “nicely” “ask” them to leave. However, what is not going to happen is a religious person buys a ticket to a Black Sabbath concert, Black Sabbath gets word of this, and then they censor the lyrics to all their songs to avoid offending that one religious person in the audience. I think that's the difference.
To bring this back around to Magic, if “even one person” is offended, that is not a reason to change the player behaviour, for the same reason as if “even one person” is offended by Black Sabbath lyrics then Black Sabbath should not put on concerts. The standard, therefore, probably ought to be some sort of “reasonable person test”; the alternative is basically cancelling Magic in public places (or just playing the Aikatsu TCG), as everyone is offended by something and Magic players in particular are notorious for whining about nothing. If the standard is “if one person whines about this we as judges need to step in and reprimand the offending player”, we're going to do an awful lot of reprimanding and not a heck of a lot of actually getting tournaments run.
I believe this analogy totally misses the point. Magic cards and tournaments are not supposed to be a niche product that only appeals to a certain demographic. I believe a better analogy is pop music or musicals. It is supposed to appeal to as many people as possible and the actual problem is not that a hypothetical person is going to something that is not intended for them, like the religious person at a black sabath concert, but rather this person is going to something that IS INTENDED FOR THEM and realizing that they do not want to be there because other people show them: YOU ARE NOT WELCOME. An example would be going to a concert where the audience catcalls the singer.
I do not believe we should follow the “reasonable person” approach because these issues are not all entirely reasonable or to put it another way you do not get offended by something because you make a decision guided by reason to be offended. Also what is reasonable differs from area to area or culture to culture. For example: I grew up less than 500 meters from the Dutch/German border but there is a giant divide between the level of acceptable nakedness/sexuality between me/Germany and the Netherlands. Germans are more prudish for anyone that cares. So for international events having both German and Dutch players, Dutch judges would have to draw the line below what they would consider reasonable. While German judges might have to let some things pass they would not in a local tournament.
While I do not believe we should or could formulate a written code to figure out what is acceptable there are a couple of guidelines we can develop, either as a local group or for ourselves, for proactive behaviour while judging/playing.
Here is mine for nudity (full or partial): okay, as long as the person(s) depicted is/are clearly in charge of their own fate. Think:
Liliana of the Veil,
Triumph of Ferocity the soldier token from the op, even the dreadful Prerelease Promo of
Hero of Bladehold and the depicted figures do not offer/promise anything sexual.
This of course still leaves grey areas but in those I would rather err on the side of telling the player to consider refraining from this object (in the future) than letting it slide. So far I have not had one player who did not at least pretend to understand my argument and actually quite a few who came to me on the second day of multi-day events to show me their new sleeves or playmats.
Furthermore, I believe that people tend to complain too little about stuf that makes them uncomfortable because you have to voice your feelings to a stranger and human beings usually do not want strangers to know they have a “weakness” and it is only a little thing. But those little things add up and there is only so much you can endure before you say enough is enough and you either have an (ir)rational explosion about the stuff that made you uncomfortable or you try to avoid the place and the activity where you feel uncomfortable. The second option, in my opinion, is far more common than the first. This also means that if one person complains publicly about something that made them uncomfortable there are more that were not willing to say anything.
Even if there is only one person that is feeling uncomfortable because of X we should take them serious and see what we can do about X to achieve the best outcome for the tournament and the players involved.
TL;DR
Please be open for what might offend someone however reasonable or not it might seem to you and please take those that come to complain to you serious even if that complaint is not reasonable to you and try to work on the best outcome for the players and the tournament as a whole.