Hi Kevin,
The Chainer player is wrong about the controller of the permanents choosing their ordering in the graveyard.
CR 404.3 states that
"If an effect or rule puts two or more cards into the same graveyard at the same time, the owner of those cards may arrange them in any order."But this is in fact irrelevant to your question, as all of the creatures in play die simultaneously. Chainer's trigger is only put on the stack
after the wrath effect is done putting cards in graveyards. By the time it resolves (much later), there won't be any Nightmares left on the battlefield for it to exile.
-Jacob
Edited Jacob Haven (Dec. 21, 2012 03:01:01 AM)